Successful graduation from University of Technology Sydney provided me with the tertiary qualification that I needed for employment in NSW DET (as referred to then) secondary schools. With this venture, the opportunity to work with young boys and girls became a reality. Being coloured and possessing a distinctive accent, it was not hard for the students to trace my Indian origin. In the first few years of casual teaching, I had overheard students whisper to each other things like she wouldn’t know because she is Indian. Their conversations were on the lines of oral sex (bj) etc. I continued to walk past them suppressing a smile, feeling sympathy for their ignorance. They laboured under the illusion that if a woman is from a developing country then they would not be progressive or open minded about matters related to sex.
On those occasions, mentally I used to come up with arguments to contradict them as if I were composing a persuasive text. To begin with, the much talked about ‘Kamasutra’ was composed by an Indian named Vyatsyana. When conversing among themselves about the 69 position, I have noticed the students squirm in their seats or weird expressions on their fresh countenances as they mentally picture the position in their fantasies and the exchanges of looks and knowing smiles and a plethora of other reactions that I have no words to describe. That happens to be just one of the positions out of the hundred detailed in the book.
In addition to this, I have evidence that we have always been advanced in our thinking and in our amorous pursuits. I did not grow up leading a conventional life and dared to openly explore the alleys of puppy love or infatuation one too many times even in an orthodox, judgmental South Indian society. Having said that, I would like to introduce the ignorant young to Khajuraho temples which has erotic lovemaking positions carved on the outside and inside of the monument. This beautiful and sexiest temple of India located in the state of Madhyapradesh was built by Chandela dynasty between 900 AD and 1130 AD.
The carvings are a celebration of female power as they depict women as open-minded beings who are not ashamed to express themselves as beings who enjoyed sexual pleasures. “It is considered that these temples are a celebration of womanhood as they depict sculptures of heavily ornamented broad-hipped and busty but well-proportionate women ( apsaras) adorning the temple walls. The well contoured bodies of the nymphs grab attention and they can be seen engaging in activities like putting on make-up, washing their hair, playing games and knotting and unknotting their girdles” (Cunningham, 2016).
Finally, the fact that India is leading in population indirectly suggest that sex plays a significant role in the lives of ordinary middle-class man, the elite, the aristocratic, the impoverished alike. Often people entertaining such perceptions would prevent themselves from approaching Indian women, even if they fantasized them, as their limited knowledge acts as a barrier. A cultural misunderstanding that needs to be straightened.