Developing the nerve to say ‘No’

Negation is an acquired skill and has the reputation of being slow in acquisition. Our experiences teach us that magnanimity at all times could prove disadvantageous and hence shape us into willing beings to say ‘Nay’ if the situation demands. A skill that comes to us only with growth and maturation; a skill that warns our opponents not to underestimate their adversaries; a much-desired quality, although inherent in us, that should be employed wisely as a weapon to ward off exploitation; a noble trait that shows character and fortitude.

However, there is a theory that in order to say ‘No’ you have to say ‘Yes’ first. By responding in the affirmative, one shows that he is willing to try an idea, a suggestion etc. and is more open to risk-taking; this qualifies him to say ‘No’ the impact of which is powerful. Psychologists believe that saying ‘no’ is absolutely essential for one’s mental health. Society’s constant emphasis on saying ‘yes’ has made it increasingly difficult for individual’s to deny others as they are accustomed to thinking, right from their childhood days, that it is a sign of insolence. However, in due course of time, we realize that we have to put our foot down and refute in the face of inequity and injustice in order to progress forward. None can deny that only civilized approach warrants civilized response or behaviour.

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